THE INDIAN MALE MINDSET FOR
FOREIGNERS
A close friend of mine;
an Australian lady once questioned me “why do Asian men particularly South East
Asian thinks that ‘white’ ladies or women are easy and they can hit on us
without feeling any guilt or remorse? To be honest the question was sudden and
I couldn’t think of an adequate response at that time. I pondered on what she
said and posed a counter question “why do you assume so?” and then she narrated
an incident.
According to her version she was getting on a ‘lift’ in a hotel to
reach her own room while staying in India and a man perhaps 2 feet shorter than
her entered the lift. He smiled at her and she returned the courtesy. Seconds
later the man started groping for her clothes while saying “let’s go to my
room”. She was shocked pushed him away and luckily for her the lift stopped at
a floor so she just got out. A voice followed her ‘come back we will have fun’.
Now the intention is
not to ridicule in any nationality but what she experienced was a typical male
mindset common in South East Asia. Men in general living in these regions think
that western or Caucasian women are ‘easy prey’ or they do not mind casual sex.
It is also thought that most American women are fond of having sex anywhere and
with anyone courtesy of the Pornographic videos found in abundance in India as
well as other South East Asian countries.
This wrong notion is engraved in the
minds of most males living in these countries. Interestingly this mindset is
about foreign women only where as for foreign males the reverse is true.
Foreign males are considered ‘vulnerable’ and as called in local dialect ‘sahib
ji’.
The Indian men feel
that any ‘white male’ is automatically a ‘lord’ or perhaps distantly related to
the King or Queen of England. Perhaps this has got to do more with centuries of
British rule in India; that majority of Indian men are ready to ‘bow down’ in
front of a street beggar provided he is from abroad and is a ‘white male’.
This
dichotomy of views and beliefs is an interesting social phenomenon to observe.
It is time that Indian men and South East Asian men in particular focus on the
positive aspects of western cultures. They must understand that women in
western countries are more polite and friendly; their friendliness has no
sexual connotations attached to it.
They should learn to respect them as they
respect their own kin. If they dress differently or act unlike them it necessarily
does not mean that they are ‘open’ to sexual advancements or harassment.
Similarly foreign men are not all cousins of King Louis or Queen Elizabeth;
they deserve courtesy but neither contempt nor the ‘master’ attitude. Modern
India is learning and soon we will see an end to these ‘taboos’; I hope and
pray both!
Wow! I like how you looked at each perspective! Great post!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kelsey :)
Deleteon the other hand most western man would expect asians to be just after their green card there for all asian woman are cheap. I was in HK for shopping and a white male asked me if who's that stupid Joe who gave me his card to use for shopping, I am expected to be a prostitute or a nanny just because I am a filipina and I am in HK. All I'm saying is that there is and will always be a stereotype against a certain group of people.. and Just like you I hope these things will soon change
ReplyDeleteHi Jenny, Thanks for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteRight now i am feeling really bad after reading your story :(, That means these things are happening everywhere. I can only hope for the best, may be one day these kind of mindsets will disappear. Thanks for sharing other side of the story.
Hahahahha... What a laugh, Love this post.. but.. To the Indian men who think foreigners are easy. They might end up with a black eye or an appendage missing and stuffed down their throat. Some of us foreigners don't take kindly to men like that.
ReplyDeleteHahaha That would be interesting :D
DeleteGreat post. Thanks for sharing. It's nice to see both perspectives. I am hoping these thoughts soon disappear from society.
ReplyDeleteI am hoping that too, Thanks
DeleteThis is a great post with some interesting perspectives. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you liked it :)
DeleteInteresting post. I have had a problem, seems everywhere I go hispanic men hit on me.
ReplyDeleteYes, this problem is everywhere i think, I just hope these things will change soon
DeleteToo funny. I would have to punch him in the eye.
ReplyDeletehaha yes
DeleteYIKES! I think it is interesting that they have an abundance of Porn and actually think American women behave that way. It is a little disturbing to me.
ReplyDeleteTo me too and I got to know that these things are happening everywhere globally. I hope these things will change soon
DeleteSuch a great post! It's interesting to see it from two different perspectives!
ReplyDeleteThanks :)
DeleteIt is really interesting to see things from a different perspective. I didn't realize there was a stereotypical attitude like this!
ReplyDeleteMany years ago, I went on a group trip to Europe and found this opinion of "easy, American women" was prevalent in many countries there as well! I think many people are guilty of stereotyping. Thank you for reminding us that we should take the time to get to know people as individuals rather than painting entire groups with the same brush.
ReplyDeleteI have never been to Asia so I wouldn't really know. I am not sure I want to experience that, LOL. I do think that friendliness can be misinterpreted by many different men and not just in Asia. Thanks for the interesting post.
ReplyDeleteSounds very interesting!
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